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I am so worried about my father who is 81. I can't think of anything else. I don't even know the exact problems yet. His appointment with his PA is 9/22. He isn't himself, seems depressed, having issues finding the correct words to use when talking.

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This is something that comes in steps.
For anyone who has a sudden difficulty with word, word searching, this is an emergency problem that requires immediate intervention; this could be a stroke.

Steps to start on:
1. Discussion with your Dad about current and future situations.
2. The creation or arrangement of documentation that allows you to act for or intervene permanently or temporarily in the case of any illness. Assessment and knowledge of important documents, bills to be paid, will location and etc.
3. The evaluation of an MD, the creation of Advance Directive and appointment as his Medical Power of Attorney to act for him in accordance with his wishes if/when he is unable to act for himself.
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I understand the concern, it’s sad to see those we love struggle and decline. It’s also sadly inevitable and worry changes nothing. The right first step is a medical evaluation, which is planned. Take this one step at a time, practice acceptance, be his advocate, and care for yourself. Consider if you might benefit from some counseling or anti anxiety medication to help. I wish you peace
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