My sister stays with mom 24/7, but she has outpatient surgery in eight days. Sister wants me to help and I am willing. But I cannot lift mom straight up from sitting like sister does. Mom also requests a drink which makes her less able to stand or sit. Once up, she can walk. Going potty is the big problem. There are no panties or pants on to pull in the back to even try to help her up. Sister just lifts her rear but I cannot really do that. I weigh 107 and mom weighs 147. I need a solution. Mom doesn't like hired care. She has no broken bones, but some mental decline my sister says. It seems like a lot of naughty behavior to me but I am not there much. Last time I tried to be there for sister to go to doctor appointment, mom said I boss her. On being safe, I have to and she does need to use her walker and not hang onto furniture. Having a drink makes her less able to function so I told her after she got to where she wanted to be and was reseated and had a little something to eat, she could have the alcohol. So I am mean and bossy. Sister needs some form of skin cancer removed so she needs to keep her appointment.
Does anyone know a good way to get someone up from seated position like a commode? Thanks for listening to all this and any new ideas are greatly appreciated.