He’s lived with me for many years before being diagnosed with dementia 5 years ago. We’ve had full time care for him for 6 months now she can no longer provide this service and we cannot afford to continue at home care. He’s lucid but needs help with bathing, dressing, eating, walking etc. He does not have any other medical health issues.
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When my mom and I visited they "got" that the memory was the biggest issue and I was able to "correct" with the staff without letting my mother know what was really happening. Example, we arrived and my mother said "this is where my dad stayed" and I mouthed "my dad" and pointed to myself. I stood behind my mother and would nod or shake my head as the director glanced at me for confirmation. THEN in the office, the director showed me the computer screen of assessment while a caregiver distracted my mother. OH I wish she had agreed to go without my dad! It would have been a lovely place for her and my dad could have visited everyday. Instead she chose the "lonely" spot at home with my dad until her passing.
Point - go look, ask questions, see at least three for cost and feel; you have done some care, so be aware and open to what they are showing you and what they are NOT showing you. Look at "A Place for Mom" .
Prayers on your search
You go to facilities and speak to the administrator and ask based on his needs.
Gena / Touch Matters
they will help with all the ADL's
they will try to keep him active, engaged with other residents.
If dad is a Veteran he may qualify for some help from the VA. It could be a little help or a LOT depending on where and when he served. Contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission they can help figure out what benefits he may be entitled to. (the VA may also pay you to provide care for him)
There are also Veterans Medical Foster Homes. A Veteran moves into a home and is cared for by the homeowner. The home and people have been checked, approved and the people trained to care for Veterans and a variety of medical conditions. The cost is less than a facility.
Also Medicare recently started a program called GUIDE and it also provides some financial support to pay for caregivers "respite" it is not a lot $2500 a year. There are also other benefits to GUIDE. (participant can not be on Hospice though)
I'd recommended memory care if at all possible. My husband is in memory care. They bathe, dress, feed him one-on-one, play games with him, assist with his mobility needs, and he can stay there until the end. He socializes, enjoys group activities, and the interaction with his aides is priceless. He gets haircuts there, a podiatrist, has had various types of therapies, and is living his best life. I can be there with him as much and as often as I like.
I wish you luck in finding the perfect place.