I came to this forum because in the last year, my grandmother has gone from living on her own, to requiring 24/7 attention. She doesn't need much, just someone to make sure she tests her blood, eats properly and regularly, and doesn't stay up all night or fall asleep in her chair.
My grandmother has been like a second mother to me and has never given me anything but love and affection. I can never pay her back, and can't live with her not getting the care she deserves. I decided in the beginning to stay there half the week continuously and have been doing that every week for 6 months without any pay. I would never accept money from her, and one of my biggest motivations is that private care is so damn expensive. I don't see how she could spend that kind of money and have it last. I want her to live 10 years, not one.
Furthermore, in bringing in private care which we have on sat+sun, there seems to be so much uncertainty as to who is there with her. Sometimes the regulars get sick or go out of town, in which case someone completely new that we have never met covers the shift. I feel so paranoid that someone is going to take advantage of her. Unfortunately, I am very untrusting of situations like that where as my grandmother is much more trusting(and doesn't have much of a choice).
It's extra hard for me because I'm there more than anyone else including the other family member (primary caregiver who opts for compensation), and everyone else gets paid. I'd really like for the money to be enough motivation for people to not take advantage of her, and possibly pilfer. One of her rings recently turned up missing which is unusual. I don't know what to do and feel completely powerless.