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My Mom has little strength anymore. She has tremors and arms and legs are very weak. I try to help her and she gets upset or apologizes. I try to assure that I want to help and don’t mind. Then later, mom gets upset because I start to clean and won’t sit with her. Her mind is slow too. I believe she is frustrated cus she can’t do the things that she used before she got Covid. I don’t think she will ever her strength back but she thinks she will. Do I give her false hope? I just don’t what to do to make her happy with me living with her. Ugh. I pray and pray and cry a lot too.

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When your mom gets upset because you "won't sit with her" this may be a dementia behavior called Shadowing. It's sort of like when babies/toddlers have Separation Anxiety because they don't yet have the ability to understand that when Mommy/Daddy are gone, they are not permanently gone and will come back. My 68-year old cousin with ALZ has been going through this with her husband in a very intense way. There's no solution except maybe meds her doc can recommend, if appropriate.
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Dallas, you started 2 question threads at the same time. You need to keep to one thread, and give more information on that. It gets difficult for you and for us if there are two threads going at once!
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You let mom try first, always. If she can't she will get to the point she will ask for help. Try to place things where it is easier for mom. Whatever you can think of to make it easier for mom.

Ask doctor to order physical and occupational therapy.
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