How do I keep sibling from stealing from my dad?

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My dad is 93 and still living at home with my sister who has lived there for 15 years. My mom passed away last year. My other siblings and I believe my sister is stealing from my dad. He can not find some of his jewelry. I was with him a couple of days ago and a pawn shop called for my sister regarding a due payment. I pretended to be her husband and called them back. She has pawned something. Her daughter is a drug addict and several times has been at the house asking dad for money. What can be done about this situation? My wife says we need to go there and take pictures and video everything. I am executor of estate but at this point I don't know if it would do any good. My dad called me today and wanted to know how to get to the pawn shop.

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I would take Dad to the pawn shop. If you verify that the item pawned is his, then ask who brought it in. The pawn broker has excepted stolen goods. If he won't give the item back to Dad get the police involved. Your Dad may have to bring charges against the person that pawned it. Or, pay the bill. If Dad has any expensive jewelry I would put it in a safe deposit box. I think doing a video of his house is a good idea. Say ur doing it for insurance purposes.
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I went thru thru this with a brother. He stole thousands of dollars, changed investments, etc. My mother had to revoke the POA. It took a few weeks to get her convinced he was stealing and a few more weeks to get all access to funds cut off. Huge mess. It reduced my mom’s assets by almost half. At one point he admitted that he planned on taking everything so that my younger brother and I would inherit nothing.
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how are his bank accounts set up?

is your sister on his bank accounts?

recently there was a post about a adult child on a joint account with a parent, and the adult child took out all the money except 5$.

you currently the POA (medical and/or financial) and your dad has signed off correct?
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Concerned52 Jul 25, 2018
Yes I am POA and executor, done through a lawyer. She is not on dad's account. Unfortunately, dad keeps "loaning" her money. He knows it is possibly being given to her daughter for drugs. When I question my sister she tells me its none of my business. But it seems to be escalating. Recently she came to dad all upset because she needed $200 to get her daughter out of hospital. Then next day her daughter's son came asking for $25 for his mom. When questioned by me and my other siblings about it my sister got angry. Who knows if it was true. My dad has had the cops there at the house to have my sister removed but then let her back in. So since he is doing these things on his own and is still competent I don't know that there is anything to be done. He called me today wanting to know how to get to the pawn shop. That's another thing. He calls me when these things happen and I get upset.
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Is your dad still mentally competent? If not, does anyone have a POA?
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Concerned52 Jul 25, 2018
He is still mentally competent and independent minded. Physically he has problems as a 93 year old would but he doesn't want to admit it. I actually have POA.
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