I am sole caregiver for my 83 yr old mother. I am 64 and my husband is 71. We have been taking care of Mom for over 21 years since my dad died. She has always been obstinate . She also lies to suit her needs. Now she has early dementia. She always finds a way to go to emergency or go to hospital and eats up all the attention when she's sick. She is bucking me when it comes to her care plans. Now she refuses to cooperate with me about bathing. She is incontinent and has frequent UTIs and she smells when she doesn't bathe regularly or right.