I have really appreciated the support I have received here. Your opinions and suggestions have been very helpful.
Here is my question...
My wife and I have had several disagreements, but we have made some headway in handling our situation: FIL lives with us. MIL died in our home last February. We have 3 young children: 7, 10, 12.
We are at a point now where we no longer argue, we just don't talk about it. She stated in our last argument that she wants to take care of him and that she wants my support. I have no desire to do this regardless of how much I love my wife. The kids and I end up being on the receiving end of the stress he causes, but she won't confront him at all.
How can I manage this situation and keep my family intact? She won't go to counseling, won't acknowledge the dysfunction, and enables every negative behavior. She wants to take care of him and I don't...at all.