My Dad lives in SC. I live in OK. We talk two - three times a week. My brother lives near him and helps all the time. He is POA and Executor of all. This is his second caregiving stint as he took care of our uncle for seven years. Dad is 88 yo, still lives on his own, but has back and leg issues, anxiety since mom died 16 years ago, onset memory issues, still drives, but is forgetful and confused at times when I talk to him on the phone. He lives in an upstairs condo where he can hardly climb the stairs. He can afford home help but refuses, won't move to a garden apartment, and will cancel a Drs appointment rather than ask my sis-in-law or brother (who still works but both are willing to drive him anywhere) if it's outside of his driving "comfort zone." (Home to Chic-fil-A to my brother's house to home.) Ironically, I am a Caregiver Coordinator, yet, do not know what to do to help my brother. I can feel the strain in our relationship when I ask about Dad. I'm retiring early (15 months) so I can go spend time with Dad and give my bro & SIL long breaks, but it seems so far from now. I do go visit, but not for long periods of time. I've been reading Aging Care forums for a few years and appreciate the wonderful advice being offered here. Any and all thoughts and ideas are appreciated!