Mom is at the ‘beginning of the end.’ As she has dementia, she doesn’t seem to have any idea that she is sick, let alone dying! She is oblivious about the reason a hospice nurse comes to the house twice a week. We talk about her condition and issues with her there, but I don’t think she can understand any of it anymore. She is miserable, but still really ‘functioning’ day to day. She is not yet bedridden, but I think that is coming in the next few days. She doesn’t LOOK and ACT like someone that is almost at the end when people are around. When it is just us, she is not responsive, can barely function, and seizes frequently. It’s like she is holding it together for show. She can really be stubborn when she wants to be. This all makes we worry that she is going to fight passing away because she is always trying to keep up the facade, especially since I don’t think she even understands what is going on? If I just try to tell her directly, she will deny that any of it is true. How do you help someone find peace and let go when the time comes, when they can’t understand anything about their condition? I understand at some point, she will probably have to be heavily medicated for pain relief. I feel like if she can’t make peace with letting go before she ends up in this condition, she will hang on much longer. I don’t mean to sound heartless. It’s not that I want my mother to pass away. I just don’t want her, or us, in agony as we go through this process, any longer than necessary. Has anyone else ever faced this kind of dilemma?