My 80 year old Mom now lives alone as my Dad went into a nursing home last year. She is a high functioning alcoholic and takes Amitriptyline, pain pills(when she can get her hands on them), and Tylenol PM like they are candy. She complains all the time about being tired and can't get anything done because she is not motivated, and how everything hurts. She's had hip replacements, gall bladder surgery etc... over the past five years but everything is ok now. I tell her if she didn't drink so much and stopped taking so many pills, she'd feel better. She sleeps till 1pm everyday and stays medicated around the clock. I can't listen to the constant complaining all the time when this is all self induced. She admits to her problems but does nothing about it. She won't go to the doctor because then she would have to admit it to him how much she drinks. She definitely has depression but won't address it. She even hides alcohol in her own home in case I find it, and I always do. I'm not saying she shouldn't drink at all, but her intake is escalating at an alarming rate and her home piles up with junk mail and boxes she refuses to throw out. It is making me crazy!!! And I'm tired of dealing with all this, and no sibling support for three years.
Any advise is appreciated. I don't want to help her if she won't even TRY to help herself.