My husband and I have lived in our duplex for the past 10 years. Our 97 year old landlady lives above us. She doesn't have any children or close relatives, just some second cousins twice removed (grandkids of her cousins) who don't seem very reliable or honest. She doesn't like or trust any of them. My landlady is housebound and has a live-in caregiver.

Anyway, last month she decided to sell the place because she said she had run out of money. She had taken a reverse mortgage out years ago and was no longer getting any money from it. I guess our rent we paid her every month was no longer cutting it. I'm not sure if she found this realtor or one of her family members did but we didn't find out about her selling the place until a buyer had already placed an offer. Maybe if she would have told us her financial problems we could have helped her so she didn't have to sell her place.

The realtor seemed really unscrupulous (my landlady has dementia and didn't know what she was signing). In fact, during this whole process I called APS twice to tell them my concerns but as far as I know no one followed up with it. Also, when we went up to see my landlady she told me someone from the bank had called her to tell her there was another person on her account. I am worried this person may be one of her shady family members who may be bilking her account, especially now that she sold the place and has $300,000 in the bank. But I don't know what to believe because she has dementia. She once told us that her cousin's grandson stole $60,000 in cash that she had kept in a closet. She keeps telling us the same stories over and over again.

The new owner of the duplex is a real estate investor who wants to tear down the building, so our ex-landlady and my husband and I have to move out within the next few months. My landlady's caregiver came down to see my husband the other day and asked him if he could help her and my landlady find a new apartment. The caregiver doesn't speak much English, doesn't drive or have internet. I'm not really sure how much I trust her either. Yikes!

First of all, this is so wrong on so many levels! My landlady is 97, never leaves the house, is bed bound and has dementia. She can't just go rent an apartment! She is completely delusional because of her dementia. She doesn't want to go to assisted living but that seems to be her only option. I don't know what do to. We're just her tenants and we have our own problems to worry about with packing and finding a new place. We can't do the same for her. I feel like she needs a conservator to handle this but it shouldn't be any of her family.

Like I've said, I've contacted APS and the Center for Aging here in Los Angeles, but no one has helped me. I don't know what else to do, other than just let her be the problem of the new landlord. She needs a social worker to come out and access the situation. I'm so stressed out as it is having to find a new place for myself. Help!

I went thru this a few months back. I had a lady and her son I have known for years. APS had been called by apartment neighbors concerning them. The smell from there apt was awful. APS kept saying "if they want to live like that nothing we can do". The womam has Dementia and the son is Special Needs. A son, living in Fla, asked APS to do a well check. It was found the woman had an infected foot so she was taken out of the apt but they left the 40 yr old son. After a couple of weeks the apt complex was told, she wasn't coming back. Son kept in touch with me on Messenger. I asked if he had food. Yes, a friend had been shopping for them. APS never contacted the son to tell him Mom would not be returning. At that point she was in rehab. I racked my brain on how to get him help. I finally contacted my nephews coordinator. TG she had worked with the family before and new the situation. She called the health department. They got the son out and in the same home as his Mom. He is a happy person at this point.
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Reply to JoAnn29

Lol, really, call the police. For what?

She maxed out a reverse mortgage which upon sale, she would have to pay back not pocket the proceeds. So how much is this duplex worth to payoff the mortgage and bank $300k? The math doesnt add up. Dont make accusations of financial fraud unless you have proof.
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JoAnn29 Feb 13, 2019
I think all the OP wants is to make sure the woman is getting cared for by the right people. Seems to me if she has Dementia the state needs to step in but seems like that isn't going to happen.
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If your land lady had dementia then keep in mind, she may be telling you a bunch of tall tales. There very well may not have been a call from the bank. There may not have been money taken. You simply cannot trust anything she says.
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Reply to worriedinCali
anonymous882474 Feb 13, 2019
Exactly! That's why I don't know what to believe. She keeps telling us the same stories over and over again. For all I know, there could be someone with Power of Attorney who is on her account that she doesn't remember. She needs to be evaluated by a professional.
I actually did call the elder financial crimes police unit but they directed me to APS and to my local police division. I will call APS again tomorrow and my local police.

BTW, when I called the Center for Aging they told me if APS comes out and the elderly person says that everything is ok there is nothing they can do. I'm afraid that maybe if APS did come out my landlady or her caregiver would tell them that, even though that's not the case. They don't trust anyone. Ugh, this system here in the US is so broken! It's just so sad that no one seems to care. I never want to wind up in this position when I'm that age!
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Reply to anonymous882474

God bless you for caring.

I would call the police and tell them what is gping on; you need to tell them that your ex's landlady needs a wellness check. If the police tell you to call APS tell them you did--twice! Just tell the police that you are worry about her safety. Remember you just need one person to poke around to find out if something is shady going on!

I wish you the best of luck!
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Reply to Shell38314

Ok. First of all good on you.
Secondly. You have called APS. Make sure you document. Call also the police division of financial crimes. Often, the APS load is so high, they pipeline to police. And you can can call local media.

Thank you for your concern for this apparent vulnerable elder.
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