I’ve been caring for her, in her home for the last 7 months and she’s gotten progressively worse. Does she need to be diagnosed? My main problem is her anger. I try to keep her calm and happy, I’m positive if I mention her delusions and memory lapses that she’ll explode. She’s 82 and physically healthy otherwise. I don’t know what my next steps should be. Advice is welcome...Thanks!
I get no no no if the conversation is too early but she won't make a scene in public. You know her best - it will be about being *creative* more & more. Best of luck!
Of course you may get an earful instead... in that case I'd have a quiet chat to her Doctor yourself. If it is a dementia, although sadly no cure exists, many find medications to help with anxiety/mood beneficial. The Doctor will need to see her, rule out other causes & refer onto specialists. Barb knows her stuff with Geriatricians - get one of those of you can!
The old trick of barging into the Doctor's office when you drive her there worked for me! Sat myself down & after the pleasantries, said "I'm a bit concerned... Can you help?". It started a conversation that needed to happen for the greater good.
If she explodes...so what? When you were a teenager, did your parents ever say " my house, my rules"?
She is living with you. You have the ability to determine who lives in your home and if your mother being there is causing you stress, I'd be inclined to politely tell her that this arrangement is not working out and that you will help her find other accomodations.