I live in a rural area. No group meetings for anything. How do I get someone to talk to?

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I am a caregiver full time. I long for a live person to talk to. Not anything special. Real life conversation, phone call sometimes. I am not demanding. I can't seem to find anyone. My life is boring. I take care of 76 year old Mother and 46yr old special needs brother full time at their home. (I rented mine). I was wondering if anyone here has suggestions on this matter. Your time will be greatly appreciated.

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P.S. I also live in a very rural area and I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel like it is little house on the prairie.
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I think Book has a good idea. There are probably at least one other in your same situation at your church, you just don't know about each other because you aren't at church due to your responsibilities at home. Contact your minister and be honest with this person,more of this may be going on in your church than you realize.People just stop showing up,nobody knows why.People are at home living in quiet desperation as caregivers.Say you do find someone at your church in the same situation, they also literally can't leave the house because of no relief, you can get face to face time by using Skype. I worked in Alaska for 13 weeks one time and that was the only way I could "see" my husband but at least I could see him when I talked to him,made a big difference.Technology can be helpful,also we didn't get charged for long distance phone calls.Let us know how you are doing.
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I know. I wouldn't have taken it on, either. It's just that if no one starts one, then there will be no caregiver's support group. I was wondering if you can approach your parent's or brother's clinic for a support group. You know, like if a nurse visits your home, you can ask. Too bad... Anyone from your church who is going through what you're going through? Who also has been abandoned by Their friends/family. This would be the non-talk about person. So, the person who would know that a member is not coming to church is the full time caregiver (because no one's there to relieve her/him) would be your church leader. Maybe approach the pastor/priest and ask their opinion about you caregivers getting together to support one another? For example, most of my fellow believers believe I stopped attending 'church' because I became a 'bad apple'. But the elders of my church knows my real reason of stopping - to concentrate on my caregiving. So, your religious leader would know more on this. Is this doable, do you think?
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bookluvr: Thanks for the reply. I can't take on one more obligation. I need that time to take a break. I don't get any. Too leary of public newspaper ads. Appreciate your time.
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Coulditbeme, I'm sure that there's another caregiver who is going through what you are going through. Is there any way of putting an ad in the newspaper asking to meet with other caregivers in a very public place? Or maybe calling your local senior citizen community and ask if they're willing to set up a monthly meeting for caregiver's to just meet and talk? Or with the local insurance or medical community? Maybe they just need someone to start the ball rolling? Unfortunately, this will mean more work for you.
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Pamstegman: I am sorry that you think my answer is the church . I have a Church and attended everytime the door opened UNTIL my mother became ill and I couldn't leave her. The Church I go to is a medium size Church. Most everybody works, etc. I can get some phone time in but that's not people time. My so called friends dumped me when I couldn't do things, meet appts, etc. I retired after 3o yrs with permanent disabilities. Caregiving my mom and brother alone are more than full time tasks. Sorry that I didn't put my full background so everyone would understand more. I meant I need a friend on a face to face and any other basis. I'm exhausted..i don't mean to be rude. Merry Christmas
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In fact, it sounds like Shellfaye has the same issue. Maybe the two of you should exchange some private messages to see if you think you'd be good supports for each other.
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I have to think there are others in this group who would like one particular person they could become closer to - someone they could call when they just want to vent or express something to - someone who they could really have a strong bond with.

First of all, I don't think people should start posting their phone numbers in here because spammers could pick those up. Maybe if a few people respond to this post with the same problem if and they sound interested, maybe what you could do is share some private messages and, if you think you've got the same interest, maybe you could then find a way to share your phone numbers, privately.

With that, I hope those who are interested would post to this discussion and possibly try to send a private message to COULDITBEME.
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I told Ma, "Ok, if you don't want to take pills, I'll just dump the whole tray. It will all be over in 48 hours. Is that what you want?" in a calm voice. It took her a minute to think it over. She took her pills.
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My Mom sometimes refuses to take her medicine. She spits it out right in front of me, or hides it in her mouth until I leave the room and then puts it under sheets. I've tried crushing it and put it in applesauce, I need help.
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