My Dad retired at 52 with heart desease and diabetes. He was able to get SS disability. He worked for DuPont so they continued his medical. My Mom hadn't worked since she was 25. She was good at budgeting. By that time we kids were out on our own and the house paid off.
Is he on Medicaid? If so they may provide in home care for a few hours. If not, apply. This may give u some time for a job. Spouses are usually not paid as caregivers.
Your profile says: "I have been home taking care of my husband for 12 years. We have lost it all." It also says your husband has heart disease, diabetes and mobility problems and is 50 years old.
Even if the age is out of wack your husband's level of disability doesn't seem to warrant full time care, what haven't you told us?
Unfortunately you are an example of why it is so often advised that people do not give up their job and outside life in order to care for a loved one, unless you have an in demand highly paid skill set and have kept current with it your employment options will likely be limited. If you have been caring for him for over a decade then no doubt you have also managed to tie your whole world to your husband's needs, gradually isolating yourself from outside supports (friends, family, faith community etc) to your own detriment. It's past time to look to the future instead of living day by day, trying to make an untenable situation work.
Sorry, I wanted to add that I'm sorry you are caught up in this. I don't think there are any easy solutions.
Is he on Medicaid? If so they may provide in home care for a few hours. If not, apply. This may give u some time for a job. Spouses are usually not paid as caregivers.
"I have been home taking care of my husband for 12 years. We have lost it all."
It also says your husband has heart disease, diabetes and mobility problems and is 50 years old.
Even if the age is out of wack your husband's level of disability doesn't seem to warrant full time care, what haven't you told us?
Unfortunately you are an example of why it is so often advised that people do not give up their job and outside life in order to care for a loved one, unless you have an in demand highly paid skill set and have kept current with it your employment options will likely be limited. If you have been caring for him for over a decade then no doubt you have also managed to tie your whole world to your husband's needs, gradually isolating yourself from outside supports (friends, family, faith community etc) to your own detriment. It's past time to look to the future instead of living day by day, trying to make an untenable situation work.
Sorry, I wanted to add that I'm sorry you are caught up in this. I don't think there are any easy solutions.