I am a caregiver for my 80 year old father. He has Alzheimer's/Dementia. My father has always been a stubborn man. I was in denial about his illness. I figured he'd get better. About a year into his care, I didn't understand how he could forget simple things like using a walker, buttoning his shirt. I wanted him to get better so I was firm with him as far as doing things for himself. We recently saw a neurologist. I now understand a little better and wish I could do that first year over. I would have been more compassionate. How do I get over the guilt of not being as compassionate as I should have been. I've apologized to him a million times, he says he loves me and this is what kills me. He is so kind and I was so harsh.