She has dementia. She can not be expected to reason and make rational decisions. You are the one that now must make those decisions for her. If it is safer for her to be in a Memory Care facility then that is where she should be. Once you have a diagnosis of dementia and if you are POA or appointed her Guardian you can make the decisions as to her welfare. That includes where she will live as well as what medical treatments she will receive. She may be stubborn, she may say she hates you but she will get used to her new "home". You just tell her that she is safe, she is cared for. And if you must, tell a "therapeutic fib" and tell her that when the doctor says she can come home she can come back home.
Many older people don’t understand how prices have increased. They just don’t. A friend’s mom was telling me last week that she couldn’t handle cleaning her home anymore. I told her to hire a cleaning woman and she said that she was not going to pay $50 for someone to clean her two bedroom condo. When I told her that was a very reasonable price she didn’t believe me. She should go into an assisted living facility but doesn’t want to part with her money.
She is in good shape physically and doesn’t seem to have dementia, but has slowed down due to getting older. She constantly tells me to slow down if I am explaining something to her, even if I am not even speaking fast. I suppose that she needs a bit longer to comprehend and process information at age 90. I think that she feels if she holds out long enough that her daughter will clean for her. Her daughter works full time and has already told her that she will not clean her house for her.
Those with dementia have an even tougher time comprehending issues.
Do you have Power of Attorney for finances and health care?
Dementia robs peoole of their ability to reason. Keep it simple: "Mom, here are the 3 facilites that you can afford; would you like to see this one first, or that one?"
"No mom, you can't stay at home any longer; the doctor says you need to have around the clock care".
She can not be expected to reason and make rational decisions.
You are the one that now must make those decisions for her.
If it is safer for her to be in a Memory Care facility then that is where she should be.
Once you have a diagnosis of dementia and if you are POA or appointed her Guardian you can make the decisions as to her welfare. That includes where she will live as well as what medical treatments she will receive.
She may be stubborn, she may say she hates you but she will get used to her new "home". You just tell her that she is safe, she is cared for. And if you must, tell a "therapeutic fib" and tell her that when the doctor says she can come home she can come back home.
She is in good shape physically and doesn’t seem to have dementia, but has slowed down due to getting older. She constantly tells me to slow down if I am explaining something to her, even if I am not even speaking fast. I suppose that she needs a bit longer to comprehend and process information at age 90. I think that she feels if she holds out long enough that her daughter will clean for her. Her daughter works full time and has already told her that she will not clean her house for her.
Those with dementia have an even tougher time comprehending issues.
Dementia robs peoole of their ability to reason. Keep it simple: "Mom, here are the 3 facilites that you can afford; would you like to see this one first, or that one?"
"No mom, you can't stay at home any longer; the doctor says you need to have around the clock care".