I'm at a loss and looking for some guidance. My mom recently got into a car accident where she backed out of our driveway, thought the car was in drive and proceeded to hit the gas and back into our tree on the other side of our property. But even after this incident, both my parens continued to bicker and my mom continued to accuse my dad of cheating on her. These accusations have created a lot of tumultuous moments where my dad loses his temper, cops are called etc. And to add to this, I naively agreed to them to watch our infant. I hoped that the kids may sway them, maybe take my mom's mind off of her obsession but it hasn't worked and now they got into a car accident. I've pleaded with her to see a doctor for her hearing (because half the time she doesn't appear she is even paying attention to me when we are having a conversation), to her primary (especially after her accident) and for the fact she is not sleeping properly (she claims the neighbors are making noise all hours of the night and is convinced the woman neighbor and my dad are trying to kill her). The last one on top of her accusations of infidelity make me think she my have dementia but she refuses to see a doctor. She has historically stayed up all night because of noises at her new residence and her old house. She routinely claims her car has been tampered with. With this accident, she tried to insinuate someone messed with her brakes (her brakes worked just fine). This time I told her for the safety for our children she needs to see a doctor and I was thrown a bunch of insults and her pretty much telling me she does not want to help us out anymore.
I have a feeling I am in for a rough road both for my mom and dad. My dad at least was checked out by a doctor and was examined for dementia and the doctor does not think he has it (Although I tend to disagree with this). Is this normal for adults in their 70's? I feel like I'm in the twilight zone dealing with them. And any ideas on how to get my mom to see the docs and get checked would be a great help. Thanks in advance!