I am on a leave under FMLA while I determine how to care for my husband. Everyone is quick to mention a nursing home for him. But how do we pay for that? We do not have long term care insurance. He is 64. I am 54 and I work a FT job. We also have a 12 year old daughter. The doctor filled out the FMLA paperwork stating I could return to work once I have home care in place for him. But how do I afford to pay for home care and go to work? It seems my check would just go to pay for a caregiver for him. I am debating leaving my job to care for him. We have talked to Council on Aging and we are talking to the VA home health care person next week.