My sister is broke, owes every CC company, has 2 mortgages on her house and owes the IRS for 10 yrs of back taxes. She started having dementia with hallucinations about 6-9 months ago. Physical health very poor. Several falls and hospitalizations later, finally agreed to go into IL with extra care. Only way I would contribute to her care was if she signed POA to one of my 3 sons, her choice who. We finally got her moved in, but the son with POA seems to be doing all the work and the other 2 aren’t doing their share. My husband has Stage 4 lung cancer and I have a host of health problems, so there isn’t much we can do physically. I am paying her IL and med mgmt costs, hoping there is enough left from sale of house to reimburse me. My concern is that the POA is drowning 1 son, and the others only help when asked directly. Their excuses are family, work, etc, but everyone has the same issues. I am seeing their relationships deteriorate because of my sister’s spend-thrift ways, which makes me mad at her! Feel like I’m caught in the middle of a tornado!