Provide us more information about your parents so we can respond to your need. Where are you? Can you be there? How old are you? Do you have other siblings (that can help/support the family unit)? We cannot respond with no information.
If you don't think dad can do his ADLs and mom can't care for him, tell the staff where he currently is that it would be an unsafe discharge. Do not take on the caregiving - tell them you can not do it and neither can your mom. Be firm. This could be short term until he does more work and gets stronger or better able to do ADLs or it might be more appropriate to be long term. I have no idea since I don't know the details of his conditions. Sounds like he has an awful lot going on for someone of 62.
I found home care for my mom when she lived with me by asking around. First I had a cleaning lady and private caregivers when our needs were smaller. Then I signed on with a private agency run by someone I know and they all worked out perfectly for us. So many wonderful women we were lucky to have helping mom. A couple of the younger ones were not great but weren't a problem either. I found the middle aged women to be much better with mom.
If your father has Alzheimer's as you mention in your profile if you do not think it is safe for him to return home then you must express your concerns to the Social Worker and the Discharge Planner. Give them good valid reasons why you do not think it is safe for him or your mother for him to return home. This is if you feel that Memory Care or AL is the appropriate place for him.
You can hire privately or hire through an agency. there are pro's and con's for each. How much care do your parents need? How advanced is dad's dementia?
You mention in your profile that dad is 62. If this is correct this could be a very long process. My Husband was diagnosed at about that age and he survived for about 12 years.
Get recommendations. Know the difference between agency care (more costly but more vetted in so far as background checks).
Ask the agency for what they do as far as vetting people. If hiring for yourself ask for and CAREFULLY CHECK references IN PERSON. Carefully discuss with applicates the needs and expectations and check carefully and frequently.
Hope others have lots to add to the list, but if you have lived a while you know all about hiring folks, whether to put in a faucet or paint the house. In the case of elder care you need to know even MORE about the license or lack of, the training, the ability to deal with issues. Interview extensively and carefully.
Where are you?
Can you be there?
How old are you?
Do you have other siblings (that can help/support the family unit)?
We cannot respond with no information.
I found home care for my mom when she lived with me by asking around. First I had a cleaning lady and private caregivers when our needs were smaller. Then I signed on with a private agency run by someone I know and they all worked out perfectly for us. So many wonderful women we were lucky to have helping mom. A couple of the younger ones were not great but weren't a problem either. I found the middle aged women to be much better with mom.
Best of luck.
Give them good valid reasons why you do not think it is safe for him or your mother for him to return home.
This is if you feel that Memory Care or AL is the appropriate place for him.
You can hire privately or hire through an agency.
there are pro's and con's for each.
How much care do your parents need?
How advanced is dad's dementia?
You mention in your profile that dad is 62. If this is correct this could be a very long process. My Husband was diagnosed at about that age and he survived for about 12 years.
A bit more info might help
Know the difference between agency care (more costly but more vetted in so far as background checks).
Ask the agency for what they do as far as vetting people.
If hiring for yourself ask for and CAREFULLY CHECK references IN PERSON.
Carefully discuss with applicates the needs and expectations and check carefully and frequently.
Hope others have lots to add to the list, but if you have lived a while you know all about hiring folks, whether to put in a faucet or paint the house. In the case of elder care you need to know even MORE about the license or lack of, the training, the ability to deal with issues. Interview extensively and carefully.