If you are speaking about medical power of attorney you certainly can call and ask the doctor which family member holds medical power of attorney. You can ask your family members, and your Gram. If gram is unable to tell you and family unwilling to tell you then you really cannot know. Is there some immediate reason that you need this information?
Very hard because its not something that has to be filed with the County. The other problem, the principle who assigns a POA receives the original paperwork. If they don't tell the person they have been assigned, no one knows they have been. I happened to be with my Mom but did not need to sign saying I agreed to be POA. Then there are those that know they have been assigned but can't find the paperwork in the LOs home.
If Gma has a lawyer, I would ask him first. Have you asked her children? If one says they do, ask that he/she produce it. They need to have the paperwork to carry out Gma's wishes. Be aware that POA does not give the assigned person the right to "steal" from Gma. Unless it says so in the POA, they cannot take a fee. They cannot use her money for personal gain. It gives them the authority to pay her bills and do her banking. To sell her home/car for her care. Both having to be sold at market value if Medicaid will be needed within 5 years. Medical POA, you carry out her wishes and deal with the doctors and staff.
The only option you have here, since gma has Dementia, is to get guardianship. This overrides any POA but can be expensive. If gma has any money, I think Medicaid allows the use of her money for guardianship. You just may have to wait until the court assigns u to get reimbursed. If there is a POA your Lawyer maybe able to ask for an accounting at the time you apply for guardianship and the POA made accountable.
You can ask your family members, and your Gram. If gram is unable to tell you and family unwilling to tell you then you really cannot know.
Is there some immediate reason that you need this information?
If Gma has a lawyer, I would ask him first. Have you asked her children? If one says they do, ask that he/she produce it. They need to have the paperwork to carry out Gma's wishes. Be aware that POA does not give the assigned person the right to "steal" from Gma. Unless it says so in the POA, they cannot take a fee. They cannot use her money for personal gain. It gives them the authority to pay her bills and do her banking. To sell her home/car for her care. Both having to be sold at market value if Medicaid will be needed within 5 years. Medical POA, you carry out her wishes and deal with the doctors and staff.
The only option you have here, since gma has Dementia, is to get guardianship. This overrides any POA but can be expensive. If gma has any money, I think Medicaid allows the use of her money for guardianship. You just may have to wait until the court assigns u to get reimbursed. If there is a POA your Lawyer maybe able to ask for an accounting at the time you apply for guardianship and the POA made accountable.