Determining correct placement for elderly mother. Any suggestions?
Any Advice is Welcome.
We have just been thru this with my 83 y/o mom. She was diagnosed with dementia a year ago, is blind in one eye and has debilitating RA. She takes major meds and has experienced several falls. Her DR has recommended no driving but DL is still active and is an ongoing source of angst.
After last fall, and a cryoplasty procedure she was not able to go home. She was sent to rehab that had MC attached. In CPM care plan meeting 24/7 supervision was recommended and MC. At the end of three weeks we were told we would have 4-5 day window to make next decisions.
As a family we were resistant to MC because she’d lived alone (she would have none of it). Within 24 hr from CPM we had a 48 notice discharge notice.
We found AL that had an opening and her paranoia was in high gear. I did not know she was developing an “escape plan” even there. I am her POA and to my face she was in total agreement (dementia with ct scans that look like FTD)
Long story short you see where this is going.
Within 2 weeks she’d called a mover and had her things moved home. She was supposed to have medication management and 24/7 supervision. She fired me as her caregiver and slandered me to everyone that would listen. She hired a lady to come 3-4 hours a day and from what I get she’s driving her around. Prob does some light housekeeping. Her meds are Narcotics and she was very upset when I offered to put them in distribution boxes. I am the enemy now.
I'm at a loss- do I stay away? Without guardianship legally I can’t do anything anyway, but my question is really my moral obligation to her?