Mom had a stroke March of 2014. I spent several months with her in remote WV (where she'd lived for 30+ years) helping her through rehab etc. She seemed to be doing ok and I returned home to Chicago. Dad died in 2010 so she was alone except for a few cousins. She returned to work as a testing instructor but found she couldn't do it so quit. She'd agreed to move in with my brother last fall so she wouldn't be home alone during the winter. That fell through, for a lot of reasons, but my husband and I moved to a bigger home in May and moved mom here with us in early July. She's been increasingly more difficult. She rarely talks to us and when she does, it's in response to something we say. We have no idea how she's feeling unless she's in pain (she's recently come down with shingles so is in a fair amount of pain). She shuts down when there is any hint of conflict and simply will not communicate. We have no idea what she wants, what she feels, etc. As an example, if we take her out to eat, she has no idea what she wants, she'll order whatever I'm having (even if it's something I know she doesn't like). She's forgotten how to say please and thank you. If she assumes she's going someone and anything that might be construed as a little big negative is said, like "I didn't expect you to go while you're in such pain. I would think the chairs would be uncomfortable", she shuts down and simply says that she'll stay home.
Yesterday afternoon, I had a headache and went to lay down. My husband came home to find her sitting in the family room with no lights on, no tv, no ipad, nothing, just sitting there. Maybe sleeping, maybe just staring off into space. Is that normal? Is not communicating in any way normal? Is anything normal after a stroke? Is this kind of behavior what I have to look forward to for the next ten years?
She's 78 so I would think she would want to try to have a life but she just doesn't seem interested in doing anything. I'm going nuts :(