My spouse is 86 and I am 66. When he has medical complications and I suggest getting medical advice, he erupts and insults me - even making hostile "growling" noises, with hateful looks and gestures. He belittles me and keeps repeating "Get off my case!"
Our marriage has fallen apart. He is narcissistic and controlling and devoid of any interest in being verbally affectionate or even grateful for my home-making and care. Plainly put, I know I am being emotionally abused.
I have no family and only one very disabled female friend. He has one son that does nothing but call/email him with superficial exchange - only because I demanded he do so. (What a fiasco that was!) The son detests me and hasn't had one conversation with me since his father married me thirty years ago. - This was a second marriage and he resented me.
Do I detach and "live like a room-mate with him" as my counselor and friend suggest?- He is impotent and sleeps in another room for almost twenty years.
Anger and rejection on his side and pity and desire to help on the other. What do I do?