I have been caretaking for parents and their home for past 7 years. My 79yr old mother has health and mental issues, my hard of hearing 85yr old father does not, but is an alcoholic. When my brother passed away who was caretaking for them, I returned home after living 3,000 miles away, for 12 years, to help my parents, because I felt it was the right thing to do, and mend things with my mother. I am the "black sheep" in my family and my mother always resented me because I am different, and don't do things her way, and she resents me. She is verbally abuse to me and my father, and continues to live in the past. At first I lived in their basement for 3 years, then moved by myself about 15 minutes away from them. I am 60 with my own issues but still went there to clean and do what was needed, I am now feeling burnout. I have a sister who only sends me a text when, she wants to tell me what I should be doing, and other family members who complain about things. None of them visit regularly, offer any help, and don't want to listen to my mother misery, and negative hurtful words, about my dad and his drinking, and the other same old complains that are same thing every day. I am the only one that visits, or tries to get things done. When I try to talk with my family about solutions, they pretty much tell me they don't want to hear, and I should just deal with it. I finally snapped on my sister after I got a text New Year Day, about the hoarding and my mother complaining about what not is getting done. I know what needs to be done, I am willing, with help, but every time they prevent me from doing or getting it done, then turn around, and cry about me doing nothing. I have told my mother hire someone, she doesn't want strangers doing things inside house, and doesn't want to pay people, which they can afford. They fight me about everything, blame me when not done, pay me peanuts, and constantly complains about me to everyone, when I only have their best at heart? Any suggestions?