Thank you for your reply... Its hard not to be able to "love her thru this", but we are to the point that if she doesnt want to help herself, we are not going to let her pull us down and draw us into her drama anymore.
The man I was caregiver for was bipolar and refused his meds. His behavior got more and more bizarre and violent.
i called 911 on more than one occasion. He would be placed in lock down unit and he would take his meds. BUT...then released after 14 days. Hospital claimed they were required to by law. Of course he would stop the meds again and round and round we would go.
finally I had to walk away. I abandoned him.... called his cousin and told her I was done. Thankfully I wasn't his family.
Try to find a placement for her. Bipolar do not get better, and the rollercoaster ride never ends. I sure hope you don't live with her!!! If you refuse to take her when the hospital discharges....they will dump her on the street. They think because they got enough meds into them to reach clinical levels they are fully functioning again. And they are, until they stop the meds once again.
I do not live with her. She is 10 min away, but we did take away her car about 6 months ago. She never drove...I always took her because she wasn't comfortable driving. As of now, she not a danger to herself, except she may fall working in the yard. Just no matter what we do its never right or enough. Now she is over the top angry because she doesn't have a car. She wants us to be at her beck and call. Trying not to feel guilty any more and living our own lives after 40 something years of taking care of her...hard adjustment for us. But Im thinking "tough love"...but hard because thats my mom...who has a really big heart and will do anything for anyone. But manipulates us like crazy. We are learning !!!
When she becomes a danger to herself and or others you have her hospitalized, call the police or report it to her doctor who can then make the decision about where she should go. Be prepared she will likely be committed not just hospitalized on a gen med floor and she will very likely be furious, not sure how long that will last...but still better than the head it's coming to anyway by the sounds of it without professionals to protect her (and you) from herself. It sounds like she will soon be too far over this edge to pull back or reason with if she isn't already and that's NOT on YOU so don't take on that guilt. There are some things just beyond our love or expertise.
SHE WILL NEVER KNOW IF YOU MAKE IT GOOD ENOUGH :)
i called 911 on more than one occasion. He would be placed in lock down unit and he would take his meds. BUT...then released after 14 days. Hospital claimed they were required to by law. Of course he would stop the meds again and round and round we would go.
finally I had to walk away. I abandoned him.... called his cousin and told her I was done. Thankfully I wasn't his family.
Try to find a placement for her. Bipolar do not get better, and the rollercoaster ride never ends. I sure hope you don't live with her!!! If you refuse to take her when the hospital discharges....they will dump her on the street. They think because they got enough meds into them to reach clinical levels they are fully functioning again. And they are, until they stop the meds once again.