How do I cope with the constant anger on my part?

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My husband has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's for almost three years. He is now totally dependent on me, and I have very little assistance. I feel like I am in prison and don't know how much longer I can deal with his problems before I totally lose it.

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One thing you need to do for sure is take care of yourself. The anger is a natural part of the process and there is nothing wrong with what you are feeling. Get Help! I am not sure of your financial status; however, if you have medicaid or your husband is a veteran there are programs that can offer in home assistance and respite care. They are to help you take care of your husband. Look for an independent living center in your area. (Google them for your state) and they can offer assistance with information about your area that can offer assistance. Also, contact the division of aging or the division of health and human services for your state; they may be able to offer you some assistance in finding the options available to you. DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR FEELING! That is the most difficult thing I had / have to learn. I wish you luck in your search.
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This is way too late to ask this question, but do you happen to have durable and medical POA for your husband and has he been deemed incompetent. If not, it sounds like you may want to contact an atty to find out how your husband can become a ward of the state and placed in a nursing home. I doubt that you are in any shape to pursue guardianship for your husband at this point. if that happens to be needed.
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Your anger is telling you that something is terribly wrong which is that you are totally deep in over your head, trying to do the impossible as one person 24/7. It is time get him outside help beyond what you can do or he could outline you.

Your husband needs to see his doctor and be evaluated for possibly being sent to a memory care unit in a nursing home. I there is not enough money for this or even to start it, then find somewhere that will take medicaid and start the medicaid application process. He needs this change and so do you. You have sacrificed far too much of your own well being in all of this and you are to be commended for your outstanding efforts, but now is beyond the time for outside help from professionals who are trained to deal with this.

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And you may want to contact an attorney to put the finamcial house in order. There is a process to follow called spousal impoverishment that you should learn about to protect your own future.
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I've heard there's great resources available at the Alzheimers.org site and your local area agency on aging. Most important talk to some people about your options - your living in a prison life ultimately will harm him as well as you.
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Now is the time to move him to safe haven before this blows out of control
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