I am caring for my fiancé’s grandmother with dementia. She has three children; all of whom don’t have the time or ability to care for her. She has always treated me with hostility but now that we have moved in and I feel as though I am being abused. Maybe I am over reacting but she has ripped blankets off of me, thrown metal objects at me and threatened to have my son taken away (just to name a few). Her children are all unable to take care of her and brush off any update I give them on her violent tendencies. She is telling her children that I do nothing for her or her household when the only thing I don’t tend to is the yard work because my fiancé and I agreed he would take responsibility for it. She has called me fat, stupid, lazy, neglectful everyday and has even tried to call the police because she thought I stole her phone when she simply misplaced it. I am having a tough time handling my own mental health and feel as if I am alone in thinking that her berating me is harmful not only to me but my four year old. My fiancé is aware but has no idea what to do about it. How can I talk to her children (with their own health problems, jobs and families) to where they will listen to me about her progressing aggression?