Two years ago my husband and I took his mother in. She was in extremely poor health and could not afford to really go anywhere else that was acceptable to the family.
She has never liked me, she considered me an immoral woman, who went to the wrong church. I figured since I wasn't marrying her and didn't have to live with her. She lived in TN at the time I lived in NY that I could deal with it.
Well now she's with us. Life is a constant argument over her Dr. instructed diet, and our lifestyle.
She is a bigot when no one is around to hear her accept my husband and I. She is two faced says one thing demands something else. Example hates swearing refuses to be in the room with family members because they swear too much but will watch a movie that swears from beginning to end.
My husband loves his mother and tries very hard to take care of all her needs. He's partially retired, I work full time. He is her primary care giver. She hates my cooking, refuses to eat the same things we do because she doesn't like it it's not her way of doing things.
It's a constant workaround here, the stress is awful.
He always tells me its her age, her expectation, he always has an excuse for her. As well as at times reminding me to be more gracious, and not be mean to her.
I need some help on how to cope with this.