Four years ago my husband and I bought a property with two homes so my parents who are disabled can live with us. I was a stay at home mom at the time and had the time to take them to doctor's appointments, shoppoing and entertain them. Shortly after that, for financial reasons I had to go back to work full time. My mother took it very hard because I could no longer take her out. Mind you, I had a 7 and 10 year old complaining of me not being home enough as well. She threatened to move out. She has fibromyalgia and my dad has Parkinsons. My 23 year old brother also lives with them, but lost his license due to a DUI, had had other legal problems and is mooching off my parents without helping mom with dad. I felt like I couldn't make anyone happy and I was very unhappy. My brother needs to take a class to clear up his DUI and get his license back, which would greatly help with mom and dad. She's given him the money (about $600) three time and three times he's spent if partying. I never imagined living with my parents would be like this. He is a bad example for my kids and due to the legal issues he's had, he has a probation office that has to come and check on him. We moved out of town to avoid that kind of environment and I feel like it's in my back yard. I've spoken to my mother about him moving out. I love my parents and my kids love having them so close but she refuses to have him move. He doesn't work, has no education and no work experience. Mom says he helps her with dad but she's always complaining how hard it is for her to care for dad and he's always out with friends..with her giving him spending money. When I ask her why he doesn't help, she backtracks and says, Oh yeah...he helps but it's still hard. One incident I cannot forget is when my kids were with her during summer vacation. His probation officer came for the monthly visit and our small dog started barking. The kids opened the door and the dog ran out. The police maced him. My kids later told my crying the were scared because they thought the police were going to shoot our dog. I felt horrible and told my mother about it. She felt bad but didn't think it was a big deal. She doesn't understand why I have a problem with my brother. My husband is getting fed up and I'm afraid this situation will lead to my divorce. Not because we don't love eachother, but because I can't control what my mother does. They sold their home and had over $90,000 four years ago, but because of my brother's legal issues they have less than $20,000 left. My dad is to the point that my mom can no longer care for him and we don't want to place him in a home. We can't count on my brother living with them...mom doesn't want to stress him out or bother him. I am the only daughter, the oldest and have 3 other brothers. They help with doctor's appointments and shopping with mom, but they also have families and full time jobs. I would like to have my parents continue living with me but not my brother. I've suggested mom move into town to help him have access to public transportation so he can get a job. By the way, it's my fault he can't get a job cause we moved to the country and there is no public transportation. My other brothers have asked her to move into town because it's easier for them since they are the ones taking them to doctor's appointments. She refuses to move and refuses to kick my brother out. I went thru a deep depression for over 2 years that was very hard to overcome and I feel like I'm falling again. I was not in a good place and don't want to be there again. I don't know what to do...............HELP!