My mom is 83 and in rehab recovering from a stroke. She was living alone, completely independent, and now she is completely dependent. She can't walk or use one of her arms. She's been in the rehab for about 60 days and has reached her "baseline" so it's time to think of the next step.
I am so torn about what to do, and it is really my decision, as I'm her only child. She is not demented, but in huge denial about her abilities. She wants to go back to her apartment, but without any care, which she needs 24/7. She insists she does not need care (many of you have heard this story before, so sorry for the repeat!) I spoke to her PT who was saying that in addition to thinking about what's best for her, I need to think about what's best for me. I guess a SNF would be better for me in a way. I think it would be so weird for her to go home and be there alone with this person all day/night (two people). Only one of my mother's friends is still alive, and other than my kids and me, she would have very few visitors.
I don't know how to make this decision! Her large one-bedroom apartment would have to be set up somehow with a bed for the night nurse, etc. Her rent is very low, which is great, so I'm thinking maybe she goes to her apt during the day and the SNF at night? The cost is comparable (i.e. outrageous) for home care and SNF.
Every day my mom tells me how miserable she is and how she wants to go home. She is not into the rehab place's little activities, like bingo and stuff, so I doubt she would participate in those types of things in a SNF. Maybe we should try home care and if that doesn't work, a SNF?
Honestly, I'm terrified to tell her she has two options, period: SNF or 24/7 care at home. She will say neither!