My mom has Vascular Dementia. She lives with my dad in their own home, and I, their oldest daughter, am their caregiver and stay about 10-12 hours a day with them. I know she has Sundowning, but this behavior started at 3:30. All she kept talking about were the 2 houses she lived in. (She and my dad have lived in the same house for almost 40 years.) She kept saying she didn't know how to work the stove, make the recipe we were making for supper (it's her recipe that she doctored up), etc. Then around 6:30 she started crying/sobbing, claiming that we were moving her during the night from one house to another. She couldn't find her clothes, her stuff, her flowers. Then she kept saying that we didn't love her and asked my dad if he would take her for his wife. A lot of pent-up emotions were coming out: frustration that she was "accused" of having Vascular Dementia; anger that we wanted to get rid of her; wishing she were dead. She finally decided that she would just go to bed since we were wanting to get rid of her. My dad was so gracious to her, kept telling her that he loved her, that he was very upset for her having to go through this, that he would take care of her for the rest of her/his life. I finally left because my mom doesn't respond to me as well as to my dad when she gets like this, but not before I told her how much she meant to me, that I wanted to give back to her like she had given to me while I was growing up. My questions are these: When your family member has gone through this, how have you helped him/her calm down? Why, with Vascular Dementia, does it happen one day and not to the same extreme the next 2-5 days? What is a possible trigger? Her neurologist will not help us. He will not answer any of our questions without my mom being present in the room -- which is a HUGE trigger for these episodes starting up. Thank you so much!