I'm new here. Mom is 80, lives by herself about 1/2 mile from me, has a new Dr, and I am her only caregiver. She broke her hip last June (2017) and I have noticed an increase in her anxiety. Mom has always been a "worrier", but now she is obsessed with all her aches, skin tears, bruises, hair on her arms,... everything about her. She just can't understand why "they" won't tell her why her hips hurt all the time, where did this bruise come from, why does she take so long to heal from a little scratch,.. frankly, it's exhausting for me.
On her first visit to her new Dr, moms BP was very low, so the new Dr changed her daily meds and set up a Cardiologist appt. Now mom has a new cardiologist who changed the meds a little more- really nothing changed except one was removed and one was increased. I have been filling her weekly pill box, and she says she has been taking them like "I" say. She frequently goes into a panic because she can't remember what all of the pills are for, so I made a spread sheet with pictures and what the meds are for and put it with her pill box. When asked about the picture, she says she has to move it to get to her pills, but doesn't understand what it is. (That may be a passive/aggressive issue for another question)
The new cardio Dr is also wanting her BP taken two hours after meds. I set an alarm on her phone, text her everyday to make sure she has taken them and show up at her house to take her BP 2 times every day. We have been doing this routine since 7/31 and it has been successful by varying degrees.
I talk of these changes to see if maybe that is why her anxiety has ratcheted up. I know any change in routine can be upsetting for older folks, but it seems her mind is consumed with all the normal aging "ailments" and can't accept that as the answer. When she starts to worry ...about her hips hurting, or whatever, it causes a snowball effect that she gets stuck in until I can come and calm her down (in varying degrees). I had spoken to her previous Dr about her increases anxiety, but she didn't think she, and Mom wouldn't agree to, an anxiety med. I've just been noticing how much worse this has been getting.
So the question here is, how do I get the new Dr to understand the real story and help my Mom?
PS: This could fall under many topics.