How do I suddenly become a caregiver to my Dad after Mom has passed away?
My mom passed away suddenly about a month ago. She had been dad's primary caregiver following several mini-strokes and he has mild impairment/dementia. Since her death, we three daughters have been taking turns staying with dad 2+ days at a time. This is geographically challenging for me and I am beginning to struggle working from his house. He smokes, the dog has ruined the rugs and they reek, just being here is stressing me out. I love my dad, I want to be helpful, but being in this house is suffocating. he doesn't talk-he never has been one to carry on a conversation with us daughters. I don't know how to be a caregiver to him and I'm experiencing serious anxiety when I am here with him and also when I go to my own home. As we all begin to accept the initial shock of losing our beloved mom, the reality of a long term caring situation for dad is sinking and I'm in a panic. If I "tap out" I'll be letting my sisters down. Any advice on getting past being youngest daughter and becoming caregiver?