My nearly 94 year old mother has lived with me for 12 years until she suffered a stroke in September and has had to reside in a Nursing home due to her being a risk at home alone all day while I work. I'd like to note that even though I have 3 siblings, I get absolutely no help. Never did. I'm also divorced so no hubby to lean on. My mother will never come back home and I think she knows this now, even though in the beginning she wailed about coming home. I had her doctor tell her this is not possible. I visit her VERY often, at least 5 times a week which includes a shopping outing on Saturday and spending the day at my home on Sunday. She walks, feeds herself and uses the bathroom but her speech and cognitive skills are very poor. My problem is this: I would really like to have my house back but she has several pieces of furniture that are keeping me from bringing my things up from the basement. I have no problem getting rid of these things but I worry about her coming over and seeing her furniture gone. I'm sure it would be upsetting. On the other hand, I really want to see my furniture back in place. Not to mention the basement is damp and musty. She has her reclining chair and a bureau at the home and that's about all she can fit. My question is this; how do I approach the subject in a gentle way? Do I ask permission to remove the items or just do it and say something kind like; "It's in storage"? I'm thinking of asking one brother to say he needs some starter furniture for his daughter. At least she would think it's still in the family....please note, none of this stuff has any monetary value. What do I do?