I am traveling to Miami from Columbus ohio. I have not seen her in 10 years. Last nite she told me he was just fine and they take him to dinner but not her.
She will pick up on your anxiety and try to comfort you without knowing why. Let her do that, let her have some control so she feels useful. If she says Dad went to dinner, just agree with her and assure her he's having a good time. In her heart, she knows he is gone, but she may not want to verbalize that.
Were they living together? Maybe mom has dementia that she thinks he is fine and being taken to dinner. Why wouldn't they take her? That she accepts that is puzzling if she is competent. Somethingmore than general age related decline must be going on. Since you have not seen her in ten years I would expect you will see drastic decline from when you last saw her, especially if she has dementia.
It's natural for you to want to be the hero, but if you move her to another state, her health insurance company will have to change and if she is on Medicaid, she will have to reapply in the new state and may not get services for months. Have a long chat with her treatment team about what is best for her.
I don't think she will she is in rehab center and she knows they took him to hospital. But she asked me if I would take her there that was before he passed
Yes they were in rehab together there will be nurse supervised social worker etc they were living with my sister she fed them nothing but muffins and milk took all phones etc I am just so sad I hope and pray she gets strong snuff to travel so I can take care of her after being abused so bad
In her heart, she knows he is gone, but she may not want to verbalize that.
if you decide to tell your mom.