I recently met with an elder care manager who, after she heard my description of Mom, said she needed help with Independent Activities of Daily Living. Mom, who is more than financially secure, doesn't like to part with her money. While I admire her thriftiness, I am getting burned out. She needs help with so many little things. I've been the main caregiver since Dad died 4 years ago. I really want to focus on expanding my own life, which may include going back to work and moving to a new, more manageable house. How do I (or my sister and I) approach Mom about the necessity of someone else helping her? She is very stubborn, entitled, and given to tantrums (and I say this with love!). I would really appreciate some ideas. I don't know what I'd do without this website!