I am 73, my husband, also my children's father is 75. He has dementia. We have 3 grown children. Neither of us have great health. How do I apologize to my children now for the help we will get from them as time goes on? How do I handle that one does much more than the other 2? I would like to pay someone outside the family for all our needs but that is not possible. I try very very hard not to call on any of the 3. I actually enjoyed caring for both my father and my mother when the time came but it seems young people of today don't feel the way we did. Any suggestions?