I’m the primary care giver and a large portion of my mom’s financial support. My sister has a lot of excuses why she rarely sees my mom and has offered little assistance when she most recently came out of the hospital. It’s all been on me: shopping, banking, Dr appoints etc. She finally has an aide for 12 hrs a week (which I found), but she is telling me and my sister she doesn’t do anything and she doesn’t need a babysitter.
Recently, we confirmed what we suspected for a while. She is telling everyone that we don’t visit her, don’t care and are always away. I am there almost everyday and probably 48/52 weeks a year. When confronted she denies it. She does not have dementia. We don’t know what to do but she is so hurtful.