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We have had many past posts saying ‘Look very carefully at those appointments. Many times they are not necessary'. The doctor/s, perhaps in the past, said ‘I’ll need to see you in a month’s time’ – or 3 months or 6 months – and the appointments kept being made long after they were needed. Sometimes nothing would be done, no matter what turned up in the check – the possible procedure would be too distressing, risky, probably not worth it. Sometimes specialist appointments are made, when the GP could do basic monitoring at the same time as another appointment, and only send you on to the specialist if necessary. Your parents could book a double appointment, where both their needs are looked at without the need for two separate visits. Someone posted “If the doctor’s opening words are ‘what are you here for today’ ", a repeat appointment probably wasn’t necessary. Don’t go with what your parents say – they may actually like the multiple appointments. They see more of you, get more outings, life is more interesting, and they get to obsess about themselves.

Kathryn, at age 24 if you are organising appointments 5 days of the week, you have no time for a life of your own. No time to work, study, date, have fun … in fact do anything worthwhile to set up your own life. If this is the level of care that your parents genuinely need (and it probably isn’t) they need to pay for some sort of care that doesn’t involve ruining you. Be a bit more hard-nosed about this. An old expression says 'the life you need to save may be your own'.
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More information would be helpful .
For example , what their conditions are , what kinds of doctors they go to . Their ages .

The answers may be in deciding if it’s really necessary to go so often . Perhaps they would qualify for a visiting nurse to come take blood pressures etc . Perhaps the lab could come to the house to draw blood tests .

Are you not able to work because of this ?
Do your parents have money to hire someone to take them to the doctor ?

If they moved to assisted living many provide transportation to doctors as well as they have many services there , primary doctor . Podiatry . Vision , dental , PT, OT , speech , psych therapy , lab , portable X-ray . They could possibly only need to leave to see specialist like cardiology , neurology , etc .

You are too young to be tied down to this . You need your life .

Do your parents take care of themselves otherwise . What else are you helping with , shopping , cooking , cleaning , laundry. Do you live with them ?
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kathrynsinner21 Jun 2024
They are both in their late 70s. Both of them are wheelchair bound due to strokes.
I live with them, and do all the necessary house work. My father is still able to drive, so that is one thing he can do. They don’t want to live in assisted living, so I am responsible for them.

The excessive doctors appointments are dental for teeth implants, Wound care, Physical Therapy (3x week), and Eye Care. Because they are both diabetic, they go to the eye doctor and wound care often.
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I once experienced a week with 5 appointments.

I advised my LO needed other solutions. A new plan for transport. Maybe Assisted Living where the Doctor came to them.

Then I quit.

PS Then my LO did find other solutions.
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kathrynsinner21 Jun 2024
What does LO stand for?
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