How common is it to be investigated by APS?

APS should have been called to help my moms neighbor but as far as we know, they were never called. They never showed up to interview her. Her daughter, a drug addict, was taking advantage of her financially. I am actually surprised the bank did not call APS.

I think its like anything else, they are human. You have those that its a power thing and others that truly want to help. It all comes down to, people can live the way they want. Which is what happen with H. He is a 40 yr old man with challenges. He has never been away from family. After numerous calls from neighbors his Mom was taken out of the apartment for a foot that had gangrene. Not because the place was filthy and smelled. And they left H who at that time was 400lbs and sleeping on a pull out sofa. He messaged me for a month saying he didn't know when his Mom was coming home. She wasn't they had placed her in a NH with Dementia not telling him she was there permanently. I found a woman who had worked with Hs family. She called the health dept, they got him out and for now he is in the same home as his Mom. He has lost over 100 lbs in the 17 months he has been there. They r trying to get him in a group home. A neighbor called everyday to APS. They kept saying he can live like that. Thing was, it wasn't how he wanted to live, it was the circumstances that made it unliveable. His Mom suffered from dementia. She could not do for herself, he could not care for her, he needed help himself.

Then there is Mrs. D. She has been bedridden since before her husband died. She had family and aides caring for her. The last aide had not been paid in 2 weeks. The aide called APS and told them she was leaving and there was a vulnerable woman in the home in her 90s. They came and took Mrs. D out of her home. I would have loved to been there just to hear the choice words she probably used. Family had stopped caring for her. She was a miserable woman.

APS was a Godsend to my mthr when she began wandering. She had a bleeding cancer and her hemoglobin was very low. Mthr could not remember my last name or where I lived, but she remembered that my husband worked for himself under a particular company and what state. That was enough for them to find us! They were very helpful.

If there's any conflict among the siblings, then a call to APS is much more likely. It's usually about money being spent on the parent's care or who is in "control". One or more siblings want an inheritance while other siblings want to spend the parent's resources on their care. Or an oldest son thinks he should be in charge while a sister actually provides hands on care.

I was investigated. Wells Fargo sicked them on me when i moved a relative’s money from their bank on the advice of a JUDGE after i was made conservator.

i had all my ducks in a row and good reports from NH staff who saw me daily so it was quickly settled.

I have seen several posts about it. Guessing it happens more than we imagine.

Services like APS have a local ‘culture’ that can vary a lot, from intrusive to useless. Referrals can vary from a nosy neighbour who likes to watch the fuss about nothing, to ‘why didn’t someone do something about this before’. If you are doing the right thing, you should have nothing to worry about. Remember that they are often mandated to check, whether or not they think there is anything wrong. They can also be very helpful in suggesting options you may not have thought about.