A year ago, my mother took sick after being on several strong meds for RA. Meds like muscles relaxers etc for a year. At the time, my older sidling was taking mom back and forth to the doctor and never shared anything with us about her health. I had expressed my concerns about the meds mom was on because she when from very activity to almost nothing at all in a very short time (6 months). One day she fell in the bathroom and and I could not get her on the phone. My other sibling went to the house and made enter. bottom line is she was so out of it because of the meds. she was taken to the hospital, and they found nothing wrong.
I took the meds and advice her PCP of it. he did not prescribe the drugs, but her RA doc did. All the while this is going on, my sister is trying to get PA for my mom so she can put her in a home. Because she had determined in her mind that mom had dementia. She wanted to control everything. We found out that she was prepping the doctor to put mom in a home, and he was not having it. she took all of moms clothes out of the house and took them to her house in preparations to send mom to a home. she argued and fought with us and said some really nasty things to and about us to anyone who would listen. she still does.
we changed RA doctors to one that is helping her condition, but I am afraid the meds have had a lasting affect on mom. she see her PCP regularly, but she has not been diagnosed as having dementia.
My mother is now 79. she still lives by herself, but my helpful siblings often stays with her at night.
My sister never came around much until a few year ago when she appointed her self as moms taxi to the doctor. mom told us that she could not talk to the doctor because my sister would tell him everything she had asked mom the night before. Basiclly mom had to sit in the appointments as if she was sick and could not talk for herself. This sibling had major control issues.
Both my self and another sibling have PA and MPA. Mom had this done once she started to feel a little better.
I feel in my heart that she will still try to fight us ever though she has not say so in moms care anymore. I handle moms financial things. for years she and her manipulative husband has plotted on how to get mom out of her mom and sell it.
She had acted in such rude way that she can not long go to appointments with us because of the accusations she makes again us to the staff.
I want to make sure we have all of our bases covered for mom. any advice would be helpful. Thanks