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Hi my auntie has leaning disability my gran looked after her up untill she died 8 years ago then my auntie took on the role, my auntie became ill herself so my uncle and his wife look after her money eg now my auntie lives in a fold with no help and not known to any soical workers, I started making her meals as she wasn't eating or taking meds, I took her to the GP then the next 2 days I found her on the floor in her fold she had been lying for over 24 hours. She went into hospital has kidney failure at the start my uncle agreed she need residential care as she is in content at times doesn't sleep in her bed on the sofa eg the soical worker agreed, I work away some weeks but am will to pay the top up , but then the next thing my uncle agreed to her going back home with 2 calls aday to Supervise her making meals and meds! I voiced my concern but was told it was going ahead my auntie had the day at the end of the day, she returned home to no new bed slept on the sofa 2 nights I found her again very ill she had not ate or been gavel her medication as the calls where to just supervise for 10 minutes she went back to hospital again I voiced concerns but was told my uncle is NOK so I can't do anything? I've rang the social work 4 times still waiting to hear back, where do I go from here my uncle again agreed with us but now has said no she can go back home with again supervised calls?

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What is a fold - I'm American and we don't use this term outside of making the laundry lay flat.
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The aunt cannot live alone. Needs an NH.
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~ I agree with "vstefans" ... Get Adult Protective Services involved RIGHT AWAY! Your aunt may have just given up, that might be the reason she's not eating or taking her medication.
I would also try to get in touch with her doctor. Something MUST be done, and soon. Next time you may find that she's decided to go for a walk, and disappear. See if you can get in home services, maybe even "Meals-On-Wheels". But someone has to get a handle on this. Does she have a health care proxy? Maybe you can get a Power of Attorney (POA), and help to make some of these decisions.
Good Luck and God Bless.
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In the US there is Adult Protective Services who could determine that someone is without adequate supervision and cannot care for themselves - and I'm wondering about your uncle's judgement or motives. I would not hesitate to involve a social service agency under these circumstances.
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Dear, you have done the right thing and you need to stay on them.
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Forgot to ask if you were in northern Ireland. If you are, could you receive some assistance from the NHS?
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Alana, it sounds like you're in Ireland. Is there anyone who goes by and checks with your auntie each day? How far from you is her fold? It sounds to me like she needs some work in rehabilitation, then to have someone supervising her care to make sure she is being tended to. Placing her in a rental unit by herself won't work due to her mental and physical problems. I hope that you can get something worked out for her. Your uncle (her brother?) may be NOK, but it does not give him absolute control over her care. You should be able to work around him. Let us know how it goes, please.
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It sounds like your aunt is ill and needs to be in a nursing home, only your uncle, who is her husband is in charge and will not let her go. And that you have reported the matter to Social Services and have not heard anything back from them. Is this right?

I'm not sure what country you are in, but it sounds like you have done the right thing. Maybe social services is working on it and your uncle is cooperating with them. Are there any other family members who can help talk to uncle and convince him to allow your aunt to go to nursing home?

I'm sorry for the way things are going. I hope you get good news soon.
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Alanacorr1 - I'm having a hard time following what's going on. Who is the person who is in the hospital? Is there more than one aunt involved? What's a fold?

Your profile is empty so it's almost impossible to make suggestions without knowing who the elder is, how old they are, what are their medical problems. Are you in the US, UK, or somewhere else?

From what I can tell, it seems like this person needs to be in a nursing home with full time care, not at home. If you don't have the right permissions, the doctors and social worker can't talk to you about them.

If you give us more information, it will be easier to help you.

We need to know to give you advice.
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