My Mom has mild/moderate Alzheimer's, she is 69 and lives an hour away from me. Her husband is there but barely due to work and who knows what else.
I have been her caregiver for the past 2 years, taking her to her appts, taking care of her meds and going down to her house 2 times per week to help manage things there with my 3 year old in tow!
My sister lives in FL and has the regular POA, my brother is around but busy and less patient.
Our concern is that her husband has not stepped up to the plate time and time again and there is a long list of things that he hasn't done or isn't doing for her that he should be.
I will put things in place for her and he will purposely not adhere to them making my help useless and me left feeling infuriated and defeated.
Its been coming to the point that its time to move them or her closer to me or closer to my sister so we can do daily drop ins since we can't trust him.
He even took her out yesterday to Costco and Giant..she said she had a mask on but mask or not she shouldn't be out during this Pandemic!!!! I have limited the amount I am down there right now because of this virus so I am trying to protect her and he just totally ignores that and he works in healthcare!!!!!!
How can we move her if he won't go along with it? How do we get around the marriage thing for the welfare of her?