We moved my dad to an independent living facility with assisted care. He has been urinating on himself and we bought Depends but he argues with the nursing staff and he will not let them check to see if they need changing, dad won't change them on a regular basis, and he knows he is wet because he will cover up the wet spot on his pants by pulling his shirt down. He does have memory loss (short-term) but shows no other signs of dementia. He is mobile, has no health issues other than diabetes, and the nursing staff checks on him every 2 hours. He is also not bathing or shaving on a regular basis, that is a struggle and argument with the nurses as well. He is not combative, he just argues and says he doesn't need to shower/change. I should mention that he has a hernia in his groin area that may be causing the leaking but I suspect that he is just not changing his underwear and they are soaked. He has issues with aiming for the toilet and says it is too painful for him to sit and urinate. We have a hand-held urinal for him but he never uses it. I have discussed with him many times about keeping clean (he has a couple of "girlfriends" where he is now) and I tell him that he is getting urine all over and his place smells, that he needs to keep clean or the place he is in will evict him, etc. He says he will listen and do what the nurses tell him to but he never does. I am at a loss. I told him if his hernia hurts he needs to tell us (doctor said surgery at this point is too risky) but he says it does not hurt him. He will put his urine soaked clothes on his bed, and I tell him to put it in the laundry basket but he never does. Sometimes he puts his clothes in the bathtub, sometimes he hides his soaked briefs in the closet or they are shredded and all over the floor.