My father is in "respite" care, following a stroke and HSV encephalitis. My sister and I have been working our butts off on my parents house to make all of the safety changes necessary (like replacing the carpet that was lumpy and a fall hazard, cleaning all the MASSIVE amounts of 50 years of junk and purchases everywhere.
We both have jobs and families as well, and are trying to complete this as fast as we can so he can be home with familiarity and memories, etc. He was her caregiver, because she has health issues, (such as fibromyalgia, neuropathy, afib, etc) and he enabled her for all these years. We have already filled 1 dumpster, and have nearly another 20 yard dumpster filled, and mother keeps taking things back out of the donation boxes, that she wants to keep. She can't keep all this junk. It is costing private pay to keep him where he is currently, and I know she wants him home, but she just doesn't seem to get that she can't continue the same behavior patterns. Then she renewed a magazine subscription, after I explained that wasn't a good idea and to read what she already has saved out of our give away boxes, but she is not listening. Then, she purchased 1255. dollars of dehydrated food from a tv evangelist one night......GRRRRR.
We haven't finished throwing away all of the other stuff and she is moving stuff back in.. I took a credit card from her but found out she has the number memorized. What do we do?? Thank goodness she doesn't drive, or she would spend all of his money on stupid un-necessary things. She's making us crazy.