He lives alone, I live out-of-state, and he has some physical limitations and needs transportation and help with hygiene. I think assisted living would be good for him, but how do I know that is what is best for him and not just for me? If he has some phyical limitations, will he be able to take advantage of the social aspects of an assisted living community. I would like to hear from people who have relatives in assisted living.
If he needs 24/7 care, asst. living is your best option because there is always someone there to help. Gather information from ALFs in his area and see what they offer. The one I am considering for my Mom charges a base price which includes rent, utilities (exp. phone), meals, transportation to appt.s, etc., all activities, linen service, and housekeeping. The "extras" are things like bathing, assistance getting to and from the dining hall, medication reminders, and help with dressing. You would probably have to add 200 to 400 additional.
(btw, I agree with you - the social interaction ALFs provide is invaluable. Because of Mom's mobility issues, it is the one thing I cannot provide her. I think she is looking forward to that the most.)
Lately, I can see that she may need more help on an everyday basis so we are looking into an assisted living center than can provide her everything she needs plus give her the social contact she is now lacking. The places I looked at are top-rated and really personalize her care. She mostly has mobility issues, but they also have good facilities for memory care, too. Even though she has problems getting around, they are really good at getting residents out of their rooms to participate as much as they can. They have outings too.
I would suggest that, during your next visit, that you talk to you father about his needs and wishes. He may be okay with some in-home help or he may need to relocate. Do not rely only on what he says he can do - they always overestimate. I used a local agency at first for caregivers. I now hire privately.
If he lives closer to you, it will be easier for you to monitor his care.