Hello all, My husband and I have been providing care for my 88 year old MIL for the past couple of years. I have been on an emotional roller coaster these few years. How can I tell if she's being passive aggressive towards me or if it's something due to dementia? For example, I was told by the home health people that she can (and should) do a few things around the house. A physical therapist came to the house in the beginning. He said she should get up and walk around a little every hour. He eventually gave up on her. An occupational therapist came a couple of times and she gave up on her, too. My MIL got to my house and sat in my chair and has been there ever since. I got really angry in the beginning b/c I was being told by home health that she should be included in household chores, etc. and I tried to include her. She refuses to do so much as put her dirty dish in the sink and leaves it for me to clean up. I thought maybe this is due to dementia after a while and started being less angry. Then, I was sick earlier this week, so my husband was doing dishes in the kitchen. He told me his mother came in there and asked him what she can do to help! Infuriating! I'm so confused. I could write a ton more. Hopefully I'm getting the gist of what I'm trying to ask across. Any insight is greatly appreciated. It's been very weird and very confusing. I'm 44. Hubby is 49. It's been quite strange to have this experience of caring for someone for which I'm literally half her age.