I believe my brother and his fam are trying to get rid of me. My brother and his wife somehow convinced them they owed him that money for coming here. I left my job and friends and sold both of my houses to come here, but have asked for nothing.
When I arrived a year ago, my brother, his wife, two kids now ages 27 and 30, and a 50 yr old boyfriend had been here 2 years already, living rent-free in a house they picked and had my parents buy. My parents complained that they never got to choose the house and the one my brother picked was $100k more than they'd agreed upon. They were also paying my brother's living expenses.
I'd assumed he'd been taking care of our parents, but when I arrived, I discovered that my parents' had not seen a doctor in years, and their house was unsanitary and in great disrepair. I started cleaning and getting repairs done, doing some of them myself and hiring others for the plumbing, roof, gutters, electrical. My brother complained to Mom each time that he "was going to do that." I also took them to doctors. Each time I followed Dr. instructions, my niece- who cuts hair for a living- would insist I should be doing the opposite.
In December, I renovated their attic and moved in to be closer. In January, they decided to quit giving money to my brother. Panic ensued and my SIL -who had not given me the time of day for the 9 months since I arrived- suddenly wanted to be my best buddy.
Two weeks later Mom had a stroke.
In the hospital, my niece told me (politely) that she wanted me to leave Mom's room so she could have privacy. I refused, so she "left", hiding in the hospital until I finally left the room at 4 am the next morning. I saw her in the hallway and asked her to have a talk. She yelled profanities at me, so I turned and went back to the room.
At 4:30 am there was a knock on the door and a security guard motioned for me to come out. He pointed down the hall at my niece and said I'd assaulted her, and my brother (who had just arrived) was backing her story. I pointed out that they have cameras in the hall and suggested they pull video. He just told me to leave.
My 94 yr old Dad was still in the room and I'd been reprimanded a day earlier by a nurse for leaving him at the hospital while I ran errands. So, I went into the room to wake him and tell him we had to go. He got up, came out and saw everyone in the hall, then starting shaking. I thought he was going to have a heart attack. He told the guard "that's my WIFE of 70 years in there. THIS is my daughter. She's not leaving and neither am I!" He pointed at my brother's clan and said "Get rid of those idiots!" So they left.
Much later that day, my brother came back. When I asked about his intentions earlier, he said he didn't know what I was talking about. His daughter also showed up later and acted like nothing had happened.
However, she then started calling hospital staff, claiming instead that I had assaulted MOM. When I overheard our nurse on a lengthy and suspicious call, Dad asked if it was his granddaughter. He took the phone and told her not to call again then had her banned. They moved Mom.
During her ban, she left 2-6 msgs on the house vm each day for Dad, talking in a baby voice saying she loves and misses him and wanted to visit our house with her 6 yr old. During this same time period, she kept trying to sneak into the hospital (with my brother's help), but was caught and removed. On her way out, she'd demand protection from me, still trying to claim I'd assaulted her. Seeing the potential danger of having her and her child come to the house she knows I LIVE IN, I asked Dad not to let her come. I feared the claims she might make knowing we have no cameras to prove otherwise. He agreed but has since forgotten everything.
Mom has been back at home, then back in hospitals for dehydration and other complications.
All the while my brother's entire family have told people that I'm isolating my parents and won't allow them to visit. Only the niece was banned originally but because they kept trying to sneak her in, Mom's hospital room #'s became non-published to ALL of them. Otherwise, they've been able to visit her at home (except my niece) and have not been prevented from seeing at her at rehab the last 3 weeks.
They continue to deny everything they say or do and back each others lies.
When they come to the house, they address Mom as "HEY BEAUTIFUL!!" then sit with her and hold her hand for an hour. They never say " what can we do to help?" When they do ANYthing for us, they talk about it before, during, and after SO much that I don't even want their help.
Defense atty's have said to wait until I"m arrested (!) Elder law attys say they only handle nursing home abuse. Civil lit lawyers don't see enough $$ in it for them. One told me to get a restraining/protective order from CityHall. CH said I have to file that with police. Police say there are no threats so they won't file. I'm weary, wary, and at a loss